Last modified: July 4, 2019
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Bring the sex and romance back into your relationship with our tips to bring the sexy back!
Nothing says boor-ring quite like night and night of Netflix without the…chill. In other words, no one wants to be in the sexless slump that is oh so easy to fall into. After all, we all have busy lives filled with work, traffic, stress, family and obligations. Sex can often fall low on the list of priorities.
Yet more frequent sex has many benefits, both for your relationship as well as your physical and mental health. More frequent sex has been linked to lower blood pressure, reduced stress and greater intimacy. So why not include it more often in your daily routine? Check out our five ways to bring the sexy back into your relationship.
Getting motivated to exercise can be hard, but getting your sweat on can easily translate to the bedroom. Cardiovascular exercise has many benefits on your sexual health. Cardio helps to get the blood flowing to all the right places.
Strength training can increase levels of growth hormone which can cause a spike in testosterone and in turn, arousal.
Yoga is a wonderful way to reduce stress levels and improve flexibility, which is always a bonus in the bedroom.
Regular exercise is also a great way to stay fit and feel strong and confident in the bedroom. While a perfect body is not required, getting the heart rate pumping regularly can do wonders for your self-esteem.
Does the way you kiss your partner look less like a steamy makeout session and more like the peck you plant on grandma’s cheek? Often we can find ourselves going through the motions-even when it comes to showing affection to our partner.
Kissing has many benefits both for your health and your relationship. Each time you kiss your body releases a flood of feel-good chemicals. Oxytocin to calm you (perfect after a long day) endorphins to make you feel good and even dopamine, which can increase feelings of romantic attachment.
One study also indicated that kissing may increase relationship satisfaction and serves an important role in long term relationships. So instead of that chaste kiss on the cheek try turning the heat up a bit and enjoy the rush of feel good feelings.
We all love to hear a good compliment but chances are, the longer you are in a relationship the less you may be hearing that wonderful feedback. Compliments can be a wonderful way to encourage healthy self-esteem in your partner as well as provide positive reinforcement.
When it comes to complimenting your partner, it is important that you seem sincere. If it seems that your compliment is not coming from a place of honesty or is being used in a manipulative way, it can have a negative effect.
Letting your partner know that you still find them attractive is a great way to keep your relationship spicy. A simple, ‘you smell amazing’ or ‘that shirt brings out your eyes’ is a great starting place. From there you can build to letting your partner know how attractive you really think they are.
Staying in touch throughout the day doesn’t have to be a tedious chore. It can actually set the stage for a romantic evening. Letting your partner know that you are thinking of them with a simple text is a great way to strengthen communication.
Once you have established this type of healthy behavior you can translate it to the bedroom. A major study on orgasms found that women were more likely to experience the big O if they exchanged flirty texts or emails with their partner about what they wanted to do later.
This makes perfect sense if you consider the brain as the most powerful sex organ in your body.
Put Down the Phone
You have probably never heard of the term ‘phubbing’ but you have likely experienced it. Phubbing refers to when someone ignores you in favor of their smartphone. It is annoying when it happens with your friends or co-workers, and can be disastrous in your relationship. One study indicated that phubbing is associated with lower marital satisfaction which can be associated with depression.
So put down the phone and focus on what is more important in life. Limiting screen time is not only beneficial for children. It can be a great way to bring the spark back into your relationship.
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