Last modified: July 16, 2019
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Increase your chances of an orgasm by following our tips to increase your sexual satisfaction.
Sex can offer many health and wellness benefits for those in and out of a committed relationship. While sex can offer increased feelings of bonding and intimacy for those in a relationship, it also offers many benefits to your mental and physical health.
Mental and Physical Health Benefits of Sex can Include:
- Boost your libido
- Reduction of stress and anxiety
- Lower risk of prostate cancers
- Boost your immune system
- Lower your blood pressure
- Improve sleep
Many of these benefits come along with sexual satisfaction, not just intercourse. Increasing sexual satisfaction can be tricky. It is important to know that small changes can yield big results. Introducing something new to the bedroom is fun and can be fruitful. Check out five things that can increase sexual satisfaction.
Ben Wa Balls
Most people have never even heard of ben wa balls, but these little spheres can be wonderful sexual aid. Also known as kegel balls, these are small weights that are inserted into the vagina much like a tampon. Instead of doing manual kegel exercises, your body naturally works the pelvic floor to keep the balls in place.
A strong pelvic floor can produce more intense orgasms since the pelvic floor muscles contract during orgasm. Working out these muscles is especially important to help aid in pregnancy recovery. Pregnancy can weaken the pelvic floor muscles and often causes urinary incontinence (involuntary loss of urine).
Urinary incontinence can affect about 30% of women in the United States. By strengthening your pelvic floor you lower the risks of accidents and urine leaks.
While lube may seem like a sexual aid for post menopausal women, it is a sexual aid that can be beneficial for anyone at any age. In fact, lube is most popular among 25-29 year-olds and is used by more than two thirds of Americans.
Lubrication is naturally secreted by the woman during arousal in order to prepare the vagina for intercourse. This is one of the many reasons why foreplay (such as kissing, touching and massage) is so important to achieving a satisfying sexual encounter.
While many women are able to produce enough lubrication naturally for enjoyable sex, there are many factors that can affect the amount of fluid produced.
- Medical conditions, such as diabetes
- Hormonal changes from birth control
- Stress and anxiety
- Some women naturally produce less lube
- Medication can affect your flow
- Chemicals that may have come into contact with your vagina
Lube can also help with safer sex by reducing the friction and reducing the chances of a condom break. For the best options on DIY lube check out this list of Safe Lube Alternatives.
Lock on the Door
While some may enjoy the danger of being caught in the throes of passion, for others it is an unnecessary distraction. Letting your mind wander during sexual encounters diminishes sexual pleasure and orgasms.
In order to have a truly mind blowing sexual experience experts suggest engaging in mindful sex. Mindful sex is when you tune out everything else that has happened in the day or may be happening later in the week, and focus on the touch, taste and feel of your partner.
The practice of mindfulness focuses on being present for the everyday moments of your life rather than worrying about the future or obsessing about the past. Mindfulness has been shown to aid in depression, anxiety and to increase happiness. Research has even linked mindfulness as helpful in treating sexual dysfunction in women.
Adding sex toys to your sexual repertoire is not a sign that you are an inferior lover. In fact, studies have shown that vibrator use is closely linked with more positive sexual function and being more proactive with your sexual health.
Vibrator use is also common, with more than half of the women surveyed and 45 percent of the men surveyed incorporating its use in the bedroom.
Use of a vibrator can help aid female sexual satisfaction as it stimulates the clitorus and can help achieve orgasm. Finding the right vibrator for you can be a challenge. If you are in a partnership, consider shopping together online or in store to fight the right toy for you.
Write down your Fantasies
Sharing your sexual needs and desires can be a difficult discussion for even the closest of couples. This is often because many people are sensitive about their sexual performance and may take your comments or suggestions as a personal criticism.
Instead of a frank discussion, consider writing out your sexual fantasies and then taking turns acting them out. This allows both partners to be heard and to explore in a safe way without any hurt feelings. By expressing your sexual needs and wants in a positive way you may be more likely to feel sexually fulfilled.
Read next: 5 Foods that can Improve Sexual Performance
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